Teaching your children values and How to be Happy for Others
How many of us are forever reminding our children to say "please" and "thank you", to remember others, and to be polite, well mannered and well behaved. But it goes deeper than that. You want to teach your children to be happy for other people's success, and to wish other people well, to judge people to the good. Sadly, there are people out there who do the opposite. They don't wish you well and they forever undermine your happiness and success. There is no greater gift you can give your children that to teach them generosity of spirit, wishing others well, judging "to the good" and even thinking good thoughts about others. For some people, one person's achievement is an illumination of their own failure, one person's success is a reminder of where they fall short. Ironically, I always feel that when someone does well, there is hope for the rest of us, and that we are all in this together anyway. By spreading love not hate, good words not bad, kindness not judgment, good wishes, not bad, we are in fact helping our own life and the life of others.
Tell your children that you love them and write to them, give them that confidence, so that no matter what obstacles they face, they can circumvent them with the inner strength, glow and love they have with them all the time.
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3 Comments:
So true! Positive messages always work best and children do respond much better to encouragement then criticism. Please continue with your wonderful advice. We need more happy children in this world.
s.shine
Aren't some adults (and adults used to be children) jealous by nature? Could it be this jealousy that truly makes it almost impossible for them to clearly see someone else's happiness without comparing it to their own level of satisfaction or dissatisfaction? And if this is true, and we have a child who displays symptoms of that innate difficulty, what can we as caring parents, do about it?
Be the example you want to see. If you want to raise children who react by being happy for other people's success, than you have to respond that way too, over and over again, to show them by example how easy it is to truly feel good for other people's achievements and success. Be the change you want to see in others. As parents, it is your responsibiltiy to nurture the postive attributes in your children and to dispel this difficult behavior before it become really destructive.
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